Girls Night In

February 28, 2009 § 9 Comments

It was an exhausting but a fun and satisfying day. Everything went as planned although I was getting stressed about things not being ‘perfect’.

I’m glad everyone came.  We had a blast. We stuffed ourselved with food and talked the usual girl-talk [Marriage, Kids, Islam, Babies, Clothes, Weight gain, Headaches & the whole deal.]

Theres something very spiritually satisfying when you’re with the people you love and care for, alhamdulilah. The only off-side point about going to quite a few parties in one go is that you gain a lot of weight and I’m invited for two more this week  because one of my very close friend is moving back to the UK.

Anyway, I took some pictures of the food. 😛

We made Lasagne, Pizza & Cake. All home-made!













February 26, 2009 § 10 Comments

Last few days and the current ones have been crazily hectic. I’m not even getting time to breathe.

Aside from the fact that my little niece and nephew are over [They just sprayed starch on my laptop & desktop, left banana peels in different parts of the house and are terrorising my Cat.], we’ve re-furnished parts of our house.

Shifting and re-shifting furniture can be absolutely time-consuming. Not to mention, I have a little get together at my house on Saturday where I’ve invited all my girlies and we’re going to gorge on eat Lasagne and home-made chocolate cake [Which I’ll be making inshaAllah]. I’m hoping everything is cleaned and immaculately perfect for Saturday. Also, I have a LOT of junk that I didn’t realise I have. Old papers and books which I need to find a place to give away.

I was at IKEA the other day and I’ve realised I just simply love going there. I love standing there and admiring the furniture and dreaming about how I would furnish my dream house. Sigh.

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'And to him is the final return…'

February 19, 2009 § 18 Comments

I’m going to miss you. Although I never saw you. I was expecting to see you grow up, to cuddle you in my arms. The plans, stories and expectations I’d hear from your Mother had all of us so excited.  I’m sure you’re in a better place now though, a much sweeter place.

I’m not sure if it’s settled in yet.

Stay strong S.

Women & Masajids in Asian Muslim Countries

February 13, 2009 § 20 Comments

This was an issue that I was meaning to write about in the past few days. An issue I think that needs to be dealt with.

Two years ago, when I was visiting Pakistan [Karachi], after quite an interval I was a bit surpised to realise none of the Women went to the Mosques. Not for Jumuah prayers or Eid. Then I also found out, most Masajids do not even have a space for Women.

I go the Friday Prayers regularly and it is normal for me to do so. As it is for a lot of Women who attend Jumuah prayers. So let’s just say, I was a tad bit disappointed. Although I still go to go as the Mosque my Grandfather goes to has space for Women. [Its tiny!]

After doing a bit of research, I realised there were several reasons for this.

Firstly, most of the Sub-Continent Muslim Countries are followers of the Hanafi Madhab. [For those of you who do not know what I’m talking about, google it].

The Hanafi Madhab is the madhab of Imam Abu Hanfiah [rahimullah] and in some cases highly discourages Women to go into Masajids to pray. However, in Islam there is no actual prevention for Women to go to pray in Mosques but the reward for Women to pray in their houses is better.

There is a difference here. What people have done is, they’ve taken the ‘discouraged’ part and have made it haram’. I’ve heard in some places in India where Women are physically stopped and absolutely forbidden to go to the Mosques. This is not Islam. The houses of Allah are for both Men and Women.

Yes, for a Woman it is more rewarding that she prays in her house, but there is no prohibition for them to go to the Mosques.

Abdullah Bin Mas’ud reported the Prophet (pbuh) as saying: It is more excellent for a woman to pray in her house than in her courtyard, and more excellent for her to pray in her private chamber than in her house. [Sunan Abu Dawood Vol.1 Chapter 204 Hadith No.570]

In fact, in some cases the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam asked that the Women go to the Mosque [For example: Eid Prayers] and certain Ulema also, especially in our times say Women should go to the Masajids when they are not getting Islamic knowledge at home.

Let us go into the time of the Prophet Muhammad sallalahu alayhi wasallam. The Women were very much active in all parts of the religion. Ayesha radi Allahu anh is ranked as one of the greatest scholars of ahadith. They were teachers, Mothers, Nurses. They were seekers of knowledge. A Woman once argued with Umar Ibn Al Khattab radi Allahu anh and won. Umar – who was one of the greatest and strongest Man of that time, one of the four righteous Caliphs and a close companion of the Prophet SAWs. And yet, a Woman won an arguement with him on a religious issue.

There are clear narrations that Women too would sometimes go to pray in congregation in the Mosques. When Umar Ibn Al Khattab [Radi Allahu Anh] was martyred, his wife was praying in congregation behind him. There is no case or incident that has been narrated that the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam actually stopped Women from coming into the Masajids.

In fact, he did quite the opposite:

The Prophet (pbuh) said, ‘Do not prevent the female servants of Allah from going to the mosque of Allah.’ [Sahih Muslim Vol.1 Chapter 177 Hadith No.886]

“If the wife of any one of you asks permission (to go to the mosque) do not forbid her.” (Sahih Bukhari Volume 1, Book of Salaah, Chapter 80, Hadith No. 832)

I’m not advocating that Women go for every Salaah to the Masjid, what I’m advocating though is that Women should not be prevented from the Mosques and should be active members in their community.

I feel the need for this is now more than before. And the reasons why I think so is because:

  • In our times I’ve notices a certain amount of jahilliya [lack of knowledge] among Women when it comes to religious knowledge.The Mosque provides the alternative for this, attending a Friday prayer and listening to a Khutbah helps in attaining knowledge.
  • I find it exceptionally hypocritical that Women in these socieites are allowed to do all sorts of things. Like going to the Mall, Cinemas, for Food, Shopping, Universities, Work – but when it comes to going to the Masjid, for religious and spiritual knowledge – its ‘Astagfirullah!’.
  • Women are the Mothers of each generation. They are the teachers of their children and their houses. If Women are not active in the religion, then who will teach the children, generation after generation? [And I’m not talking about secular education here…]
  • With Women not being allowed to go to Masajids and in some cases, no section of place being alotted for Women whatsoever a huge probem arises. We need to accept that fact that Women in our times do not always stay home, regardless how religious they are. There are a hundred and one things that need to be dealt with – and what if she is out and about shopping and the time for Salaah comes? There will be no place for her to pray! A prayer missed without a reason, regardless of how much you make it up, is not the same.

I don’t have anything against the Hanafi Madhab per se [Incase I start getting hate comments :P] but I am against how somethings are being [mis] interpreted and how blind following should not be how we shoud be following our religion.

We need to go back to the authentic sources of the Qurán and Sunnah and give each other our rights.

Dentist Horror

February 12, 2009 § 8 Comments

Who could’ve thought going to a dentist could bring you to tears?

Well, apparently it did in my case. I just got my tooth pulled out and I cried like a baby throughout the whole process. I haven’t cried in a long time and I don’t know why I am admitting it here because its so humiliating.

I think big injections still scare me. And I’d been thinking about the whole ordeal for past two days so when I time finally came and she started poking at my ultra sensitive and highly painful tooth, I first cringed & then started… crying.

I’m glad there weren’t a lot of people there to witness this. I hate dentists. With a new fervor. And it’s absolutely brutal how they scrape and poke at your tooth to take it out.


On top, I have a party to attend on Saturday which I’m hope I’m okay to go too. [And not look like a swollen monster]. This is something I’ve been looking forward to because its all girls, involves some of my closest friends and give me a chance to dress up without caring about Hijab.


February 10, 2009 § 21 Comments

SAWJ tagged me. And the reason this blog is on a stand-still is because 1) I’m busy 2) I wasn’t in the mood to update.

Khair, here goes.

4 Places I Go to Over and Over Again

  • Laptop [I think I’m a bit of a Net freak]
  • To Sleep
  • Fantasy World
  • Good times

4 People Who (E-)Mail Me Regularly:

  • My Sister in Ka-na-da
  • A Newspaper I’ve subcribed too
  • My friends [They’re more than four… so]

4 of My Favourite Places to Eat (Apart from Home)

  • Scoozi
  • Zaatar Wa Zeit
  • Al-Faisal [It’s closed down now though :(]
  • Charlies Grilled Subs

4 Places I’d Rather be Now

  • A gathering of the blessed
  • Near the Kaabah
  • Yemen
  • The Beach

4 Favourite TV Shows

I’m going to copy SAWJ on this one, I’m not a TV person at all.

  • Dunno (haven’t watched TV in a long while)
  • Dunno (haven’t watched TV in a long while)
  • Dunno (haven’t watched TV in a long while)
  • Dunno (haven’t watched TV in a long while)

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