In the Passage of Time
September 6, 2009 § 53 Comments
One of my very close friends, who is almost like a Sister to me just announced yesterday that after much consideration and istikhaara she has agreed to a proposal which has come her way. A part of me was ecstatic for her because I know it was a hard decision for her to make. She is one of those few ideal Women who is beautiful inside and out, does normal things like go to University but at the same time also cooks like a star and is religious. She’d get a lot of proposals and she nearly got married to someone who she found out just in time that he still had a girl-friend stacked up somewhere. But alhamdulilah, both her and I have a good feeling about this one. I was hoping she didn’t just agree to his out of pressure, but she seemed happy so inshaAllah not.
Another part of me was still in a bit of shock though. Wasn’t it just yesterday we were kidding around about the most silliest of things? Not to mention, it’s a bit difficult acknowledging that you’re finally, officially grown-up.
It’s amazing how things just take their course as life goes on. I remember so clearly, just two months ago we were all sitting at one of my friends house after dinner and we had a discussion on numerous issues which were troubling us. Either it was discussing divorce one of them had gone through, issues at work/university, the lack of ‘good Muslim Men [no offense what-so-ever ;)]’, issues with Niqaab or what we were planning to do with our future.
In a span of one and a half-months, two of them are now married. One of the other ones is in her 6th month of pregnancy and the other is geting engaged. Not to mention, one of my very close cousin just called me from Pakistan and told me shes getting hitched too. Two of my other friends have shifted to the UK and one of them sent me an e-mail the other day saying she was planning to travel the World before she settles down. Knowing her, I know she’ll do it.
Life has the tendancy to take you through different phases which you probably wouldn’t even think off. It’s interesting how things change – but I suppose that is the plan of our creator considering life could become down-right boring if things didn’t change.
And me? I can feel the pressure building, but I’m refusing to acknowledge it. Ultimately right now, I’m not ready for anything. Although according to my Sister, I’ll keep telling myself I’m still a kid until I hit my 30’s. [Which doesn’t sound like a bad plan after all…] 😛
On an interesting note, one of my major rejection points would be that the guy wouldn’t be ‘okay’ about me wearing Niqaab or we’d be on totally opposite ends. Now, I feel God is testing me by sending me the people who are actually more than okay about it. It’s almost like a slap in the face. :@