In the Passage of Time – 2
October 7, 2009 § 15 Comments
A friend of ours we thought we’d never see again came back to Dubai for a surprise visit. All of us met up again today and it was nice. A chance to dress up, the smiles, the food, the laughter, the discussions and updates over coffee. Alhamdulilah for good friends. When you have friends who you initially meet while treading the path of deen, you create a special bond between yourselves which is unlike any other friendship.
Yet again, as time passes, changes happen. Life is never stable, never set in one specific way. Just as after Day there is Night and the Creation is in a constant state of movement, likewise our lives are in a constant state of change and that in itself is a blessing otherwise we’d go crazy.
We’re so ungrateful though, I feel sometimes I’m put in situations or that real-life incidents are brought to me so I realise how ungrateful I am.
A friend of mine has a cyst in both her ovaries, what does that mean? She can’t ever have babies. She just got married recently and is in her early twenties. But Allahu Aalam, if Allah wishes he can bless anyone with children, its the tawakkul in Allah [swt] that counts. A beautiful example is of Ibrahim & Sarah [AS], Sarah was a barren woman and yet Allah subhanna wa ta’ala blessed them with Ishaaq.
But We gave her glad tidings of Ishâq (Isaac), and after Ishâq, of Ya’qûb (Jacob). (71) She said (in astonishment): “Woe unto me! Shall I bear a child while I am an old woman, and here is my husband, an old man? Verily! This is a strange thing!” (72) They said: “Do you wonder at the Decree of Allâh? The Mercy of Allâh and His Blessings be on you, O the family [of Ibrahîm (Abraham)]. Surely, He (Allâh) is All-Praiseworthy, All-Glorious.” (73) [Hud]
Anyway, we also ended up discussing a whole lot of other things. Like prostitutes – we know a Sister who is a councellor for Muslim Women prostitutes, and as scary and depressing as it may sound some of them are as young as 13 and when they leave their houses wear the full Abaya & Hijab. This girl still plays with dolls and looks like any other young innocent girl when you look at her. Depressing world isn’t it? But a lot of them have been sold by their own families, especially when the Iraq War happened because they couldn’t feed their children. One of them said, it’s humiliating at first… but then you get used to it.
We also has a discussion marriage, how you should end up enjoying your singlehood to the max [halal way ofcourse] & I’ve also realised, I’ve got a lot of freedom, in so many ways, thats its well… addictive. My Parents are okay almost most of the time if I want to go anywhere as long as they know where and I’m home before my Dad is. We also have this trust bond between us where my Parents know I won’t do anything wrong and as long as I’m safe, I’m set to go.
And in amidst all these, all my friends phones were ringing, guess who was calling? The hubbies. Wanting to know if everyone was okay, if they’re reached and when they’d be returning back home. Sigh. We’ve come to the conclusion that Men are over-grown babies. 😛
Another friend of mine got divorced, first one though but shes decided to go back. And I’m happy for her, because i think they’ll get their problems sorted out this time inshaAllah.
But marriage is such a gamble. How do you know your spouse wont turn out to be an abusive, cruel psycopath? Or that the sweet person he/she present themselves to be in fact, turns out to be a facade and they have a dark sinister side to them you never knew about. You hear all sorts of stories these days because people have become so hypocritical. I guess you just have to have faith.
… I scratched the Camry. 😦 And everytime I go out to open it, the dent stares back at me. No, not an accident alhamdulilah, I was parked somewhere and trying to leave without hitting the car parked close behind me, i ended up denting the side of the Camry with the door of the place. Surprisingly, my Dad isn’t as upset as I expected him to be – there are advantages of being the youngest of the family, female, puppy eyes and hugs. However, I don’t know what to do about the dent and the scratch, when you send the car to get serviced they ask you for a police confirmation receit and we dont have one, well, because i thought it wasn’t uh, important to call the Police. *sheepish*.
PS- We’re all so excited. A friend of mine gives birth in precisely a month! 😀