Daily life in Afghanistan and Pakistan

February 28, 2010 § 2 Comments

Some very beautiful pictures from Afghanistan and Pakistan.

You can view all the pictures here: – Link


Is there any hope?

February 2, 2010 § 17 Comments

A friend of mine emailed me today saying she was divorced. Yes, divorced. Shes been married for only two years.

Another friend of mine is also filing for divorce because her husband hit her.

Both of the couples above, when you’d see them a couple of months back you wouldn’t think there would be any cause for divorce. It’s amazing how people can change.

Which makes me hesitate in jumping the marriage bandwagon even in the future.

I’m probably paranoid but you can’t blame me when I’ve seen two of my Sisters’ going through the difficult process of divorce when I was growing up. Leaves emotional scars behind. In the end, the thought of getting hitched isn’t appealing. I’ll probably give whoever I do end up getting married to a nightmare.

Nasheed for Hijabis [By Ahmed bin Ali Al-Ajami]

November 15, 2009 § 1 Comment

Came across this and I loved it. Shaykh Ahmed bin Ali Al-Ajami has a beautiful voice – especially his Qiraat of the Qurán. 🙂

Stay strong if you wear the Hijab or the Niqaab – in the end, the ajar is with Allah SWT.

May Allah subhanna wa ta’ala give all our Sisters sabr who are facing problems be it at home or from the government because of their Hijab or Niqaab. Ameen.

‘Fashion Week Karachi has strongly offended true Pakistani culture’

November 10, 2009 § 21 Comments

Except for the bombings and politically-related events I don’t usually keep very much upto date with whats happening inside Pakistan. But this caught my attention.

I knew the Fashion Week/Show raised some eyes but I didn’t actually know what ‘sort’ of a fashion show it really was.


Interesting video. Thoughts?

I just think its really silly how a lot of people are going from one extreme to another. ‘Pakistan isn’t about bombings and violence but fashion shows and half-naked Women?’ Isnt that just transferring yourself from one sort of repression to another?

And I know anyone walks out in any of those clothes in any of the cities of Pakistan is going to be plain labelled [wont mince my words here] a hooker. Those clothes don’t represent anything ‘Pakistani’.

Thursday Ramblings

October 29, 2009 § 24 Comments

I love Thursdays. Thursdays are ‘lets-relax’ days for me, the beginning of the weekend. I usually end up spending Thursday curled in bed with a book or the laptop with a cup of tea catching up with ‘things’ unless I’ve got plans. Anyway, I promised myself a blog post on Thursday and here it is.

Currently nothing majorly interesting is happening in my very uninteresting life, but anyay, if you’re still interested: 😛

  • The IPhone Update

My brother bought me the IPhone 3GS. It’s sleek, its beautiful and if you’re a gadget lover you’ll love this. I’m currently still getting the hang of it and its been distracting me for the past two days. I got the package from Du, but the silly people haven’t activated my SIM yet so I need to go tomorrow morning to get it checked.

  • The health-freak update

Okay, okay, most of you hear me ranting about gaining weight  a lot and probably think, ‘Another of those Women things which women don’t stop talking about’. However, this time I’ve seriously put on a few extra kgs & although being nearly 5’8′ has the advantage of the extra weight not showing, I know its there! In the end, for me its not even about the weight, but more about feeling light and healthy. I hate it when I stop eating healthy, its almost as if I can hear my body groaning.

Been considering the gym again, but i’ve realised there are some obstacles in the way [Like how the Camry isn’t mine yet…] so I’ll leave that. However, my sister and I have started walking in the nearby park though & I’m hoping thats a good start.

  • The Studies update

I finish my 20th Juz of the Qurán on Sunday inshaAllah. That makes it 9 more to go. The more towards the end I come the more I’m freaking out. I’m scared. I haven’t done enough. I don’t want to leave the protected environment I’m currently in.

May Allah subhanna wa ta’ala make it easier for me and give me the tawfique to spread the deen forward. Ameen.

It’ll be to Uni after this & although I’ll be behind two years it really doesn’t matter in the end. Am I looking forward to it? I don’t know anymore… I’ve gotten so used to being among people of the same mentalitiy and the same wave-length that I know it’s going to be a bit difficult to go back into a secular and co-ed environment. That’ll be the real test.

Studying the Qurán is a beautiful inexplainable experience. It’s not something you can describe but something you have to experience on your own. Just the thought that these are the words of Allah azza wa jal, a miracle on its own, tends to affect you.

  • The Marriage update

If anybody else asks me when I’m getting married again, I’m seriously going to loose it. Seriously.

  • Breast-Cancer

This month was Breast Cancer month. Breast Cancer has taken the lives of a lot of Women and Men and its a deadly disease since a lot of Women and Men don’t tend to find out till the end. The Mother of my closest friend who is almost like a Sister to me found out she had breast cancer a couple of months ago. After going through a lot of chemotheraphy treatments she looked a bit better during Ramadan but come Eid she looked utterly tired.

She’d lost her hair and I don’t know why this particular thing caught my attention. Maybe its because older Pakistani Women tend to have long hair and they keep it like that, especially if they’re Mothers/Grandmothers.

After Eid they went to get her check-ups done and found out that her breast cancer had moved to her brain and has been growing there for a while. She went for brain surgery day before yesterday and is currently in the ICU right now.

Please keep her in your duas, the doctors still haven’t said what her survival chances are, but inshaAllah I hope Allah azza wa jal grants her shifa and heals her.

  • The Weather

Coolness is in the air and the winds tease with the promise of coming Winter. I love it when the breeze brushes against me and the leaves rustle when I’m in the garden. It’s not too hot and its pleasantly cool. Sigh. I love this weather.

O Autumn, laden with fruit, and stained
With the blood of the grape, pass not, but sit
Beneath my shady roof; there thou mayest rest
And tune thy jolly voice to my fresh pipe,
And all the daughters of the year shall dance!
Sing now the lusty song of fruits and flowers.

William Blake

And.. thats all for now. 🙂

Provision for divorcees

October 25, 2009 § 8 Comments

A couple of weeks back I had to review Surah Al Baqarah for an assignment I had to submit. More specifically the second Juz’ of the Qurán regarding divorce.

As I was going through it I came across this specific verse that caught my attention.

وَلِلۡمُطَلَّقَـٰتِ مَتَـٰعُۢ بِٱلۡمَعۡرُوفِ‌ۖ حَقًّا عَلَى ٱلۡمُتَّقِينَ

And for divorced women, maintenance (should be provided) on reasonable (scale). This is a duty on Al-Muttaqûn (those who fear Allah). (2:241)

If we ponder upon this verse and more specifically the Arabic of this verse, Allah subhanna wa ta’ala says this is a ‘Haqq’ a religious duty and an obligation for those who fear Allah. [IE – Have taqwa].

One of the conditions of Imaan is to fear Allah subhanna wa ta’ala, no body can claim to be a Muslim and say they don’t fear Allah azza wa jal. However, to actually become one of those who are Muttaqun, you have to have a deep sense and recognition of that fear and be acting upon it.

In this verse, Allah subhanna wa ta’ala is saying that if anyone truly deeply fears Allah, they will provide for divorcees in a reasonable manner. And it should not just be limited to provision but should extend to kindness and dealing with them justly.

Thirdly, this verse is not directed just at the family of the divorcee but the society as a whole. The word, ‘Muttaqun’ is used which is plural.

In our societies this verse is rarely acted upon or much less known. Especially in the Asian region, a divorced Woman is considered the lowest of society and isn’t given her rights. Much less spoken to properly. Although this has been changing over a period of time, it still exists in some Muslim societies.

Two of my Sisters are divorced and I remember when we’d first visted Pakistan after her divorce a relative of ours blatantly pointed her out to another Woman loudly whispering, ‘Look, its her, the one who got divorced’. This was done in public at someone elses wedding we were attending.

This was a long time back, but it still shows the absolute state of ignorance some people are in. When my second Sister was divorced, we heard someone had said that it was a ‘family problem’.

Divorcees rarely get married again and have a stigma attached to them. It’s okay if her husband is abusive and an alcoholic and that going through everyday is hell – but God Forbid she seeks a divorce or he gives it her. As it is, any divorcee, be it Man or Woman has a difficult time dealing with seperation, they also have to deal with the crap from society as well.

Whats deeply saddening is that this view is held by a lot of Muslims, maybe ignorant-about-the-deen Muslims, but Muslims all the same.

If we look at the time of the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam and even during the time of the Sahaaba radi allahu anhum, divorce was a common matter and divorcees weren’t looked down upon. Although it should be used as a last resort, when you’ve exhausted all means to stay married, it still is something you can use which is permitted by Allah subhanna wa ta’ala and the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam.

Anyway, one of the parts of assignment consisted of looking into the iddah period every Woman who is seperated with her husband either through divorce or his death or Khulda. And guess what, its different according to each Woman and her condition. Any fiqh which is related to Women is considerably so much more complicated apparently.

Oh and the person who bad-mouthed my Sister? Sadly, a couple of years later her own daughter got divorced too.

In the end, if only people actually read the Qurán and understood it.

Feelings of Patriotism

August 9, 2009 § 6 Comments

I’m not sure what it is, the coming of 14th August, or my involvement in Swat Relief campaigns or the addition of numerous Pakistani friends, but I’m actually feeling a tad bit patriotic towards the Country. Especially compared to this post here that I had made a couple of months back.

Although I still wouln’t do the ‘I live and die for the Country…’ thing.

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