And we move on..

June 15, 2010 § 5 Comments

Just so you know, I don’t blog here anymore. But because a lot of people are protesting at why i’ve shut down my blog completely [especially Leena] I’ve decided to open it for anyone who is bored enough to go through my old posts. 😉

I won’t be linking my new blog, simply because I feel I’ve dragged people enough from blog to blog but if you’re still curious drop me a line at


Much love.


And it gets weirder…

January 19, 2010 § 6 Comments

I was speaking to a friend of mine at an Islamic Seminar the other day which we were both attending when my friends Mother-In-Law [to-be] walked by and introduced herself.

I didn’t think anything at first obviously, but after a while when she fixated on me and kept on giving me wide smiles I became a little suspicious.

The next day, I met my friend again and lo and behold, I knew I was right. This Auntie has asked for me for her other son. And my best-friend is getting married to her eldest.

How weird[er] and complicated does it get?


This is my third proposal in half a  month.

And this is definitely a No too…

If my Mom finds out about all the other i didn’t even bother looking into AND didn’t tell her about, she is so going to kill me. 😦


January 15, 2010 § 12 Comments

You can all kill me later for not blogging.

I won’t come up with the ‘I was busy’ excuses because if I really wanted to blog, i’d find the time. Heh.

I just don’t feel like it anymore.

Anyway, I am technically a little busy though, finish my Qu’ran course in another three months [approx] bi’idnillah… So I’m trying to make the best of these three months.

Other then that, I’ve got two proposals. I don’t know if they’ll be considered actual proposals because they haven’t reached my Parents yet [And I hope to God they don’t!] but – I’m SO not ready for this. Definitely not interested in one, and the other one I have yet to find more information about.

Oh and, I hate Aunties.

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The 25 Random things tag

October 21, 2009 § 38 Comments

I’ve been tagged by Sawj [I refuse to call him Senilius :P] to do this 25 tag thing: [25!!]


Once you’ve been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. If I tagged you, its because I want to know more about you.

25 randomest things from the top of my head.

  1. I’m doing this tag when I should be studying.
  2. I find immense pleasure in killing stereotypes.
  3. The max I’ve ever driven a car is at 120kmph & I really really want to touch 140 one day but I don’t know if I have the guts to do it. [Usually I’m a very careful driver :P]
  4. Since I was young there has been always one pet or the other in my house, we’ve had parrots, turtles, canaries, lovebirds, cats, cats and did I say cats? 😛
  5. When I used to listen to music my favourite genre was hip-hop. I’m mentioning this because people see me now they can’t imagine me listening to music, much less hip-hop.
  6. I get really concious & embarrased when I speak in Urdu because I speak it with an American accent. Especially when I’m in Pakistan [I think this also has to do with the fact that I’ve been picked on by my cousins a lot when I visit] – so when I do speak I make it a point to think clearly about my words but somehow I end up stuttering trying to explain myself. :/ I’m trying to make it an accentless Urdu.
  7. I love being creative and trying out new styles when it comes to Hijab & Niqaab. Oh the possibilities are endless. 😉 [Just don’t over-do them]
  8. I like to match! Although I wear the Abaya everywhere, I match my shoes to my bag to my watch to my rings to the embroidery on my shayla.
  9. I love sleeping. I absolutely need my sleep to function properly.
  10. I have a hard time saying ‘No’ to people… & this too has landed me in a lot of trouble.
  11. I have Gamophobia – fear of marriage – and I just recently admitted it to myself. When marriage and my name is mentioned in the same sentence i literally have the tendency to suffocate & I find the oddest things wrong with potentials. :O Surprisingly though, I also have people come to me for marital advice or to listen to their marital problems when I’m the last person they should be seeing.
  12. I’m awful at making decisions.
  13. I’ve been in love with Zaater W Zeits Djeij W Chicken for a while. *drool-worthy*
  14. When I first meet people I’m usually a very quiet person and I only tend to speak to people after I know them a little.
  15. I daydream & procrastinate at the most irrelevant times.
  16. A couple of months back I was heavily involved in writing, I used to write for a lot of different people/organisations and then I just… stopped. I feel bad because I haven’t written anything productive in a while.
  17. Until just a few years back, I used to play… computer and PS2 games. My brother would get all these new games and then we’d both end up trying them out. I became exceptionally good at AOE3, Monkey Island & Tekken.
  18. I really like the concept of cooking but I don’t know how to cook much except for baking. And currently my Moms going crazy getting worried that I’m in my 20’s & I don’t know half of the thing she knew when she was in her 20’s. 😛
  19. I get  self-consciouswhen I wear glasses. I’m a very non-specs person because when I started wearing glasses initially I was in Junior School & my first pair of specs were big fat blue specs and they looked awful on me. When I got the chance I started wearing lenses but just recently after a few infections in my eye I was re-motivated to try out glasses again at times.
  20. I absolutely love horse-back riding. I used to ride for 4 years but that was before I started wearing Niqaab strictle. I’m hoping they open a riding school specifically for just-women over here in Dubai. I was initially motivated to start riding because of my love of horses. Horses are beautiful creatures.
  21. I’ve once hit a parked car and ran. Because I was scared. [But it wasn’t so bad] However I’ve always felt guilty about it till this day. [Why I’m admitting this on here i dont know…]
  22. I’m not a very patriotic person.
  23. I’m awful at organisation. Absolutely awful.
  24. When I leave the house I try do Wudhu whenever I can, its this habit I’ve developed, especially since I started driving because of the possibility that I could always end up in an accident and die.
  25. I get asked about how I don’t feel like visiting Cinemas anymore… [I’m not going to go into if Movies are halal or haraam thing] because what started happening was I’d think if I die at this moment, in this Cinema hall, I’m going to be brought up on the day of judgment facing Allah subhanna wa ta’ala watching a … movie. That really killed it for me. 😛

Oh and considering most of the people are already tagged I’ll just do a few:

I tag: Sophi, Falsa & Farooqk.

If you’re reading this and aren’t tagged, consider yourself tagged!

The Niqaab – Fact Vs. Fiction

October 19, 2009 § 16 Comments

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I’ve been wearing the Niqaab for the past two years and although in the beginning I wasn’t so strict about it I’ve become steadfast in the past year alhamdulilah. That’s not what this post is about though, it’s more about how people tend to perceive munaqabbas. Although I live in a Muslim/Arab Country where Niqabis are spotted, the city is inhabited mostly by Non-Muslims.

As my experience as a Munaqabba I’ve had the most funniest, craziest and silliest experiences. The questions I’ve been asked sometimes made me laugh and other times made me cringe. What sometimes saddened me though was when they were asked by Muslims themselves. I’m tempted to do a series of posts on some of the questions, it should be fun but I don’t know if I’ll have time. Maybe in the future inshaAllah. 🙂

Anyway, I came across this article by Sister Fatima Barakatulla [I love her work!] on Niqab which was posted on TimesOnline. Although it was mainly in response to the claims that were made against Niqab in the UK & recently in France, i think it’s still relevant.

How much do you really know about the niqab? An insider guide to common misconceptions.

1. The niqab is a symbol of female subjugation.

None of the niqab-wearing women who I know, wear it because they have been forced to. They see it as an act of devotion to their Creator: the culmination of a spiritual journey. In fact most of them are women who were born and brought up in the UK; many are White or Afro-Caribbean Muslim converts to Islam who have chosen to observe it.

The hijab, niqab and abaya are outer garments and are worn only when outdoors or in the presence of men who are not close relatives and so, contrary to popular belief, underneath their robes, in family and female-only settings Muslim women are often very fashion conscious and outgoing.

They dress in everyday clothing; they get their hair done, go on holiday and even buy lingerie!

2. Women who wear the niqab cannot possibly contribute to society

People are surprised to hear that niqab-wearers come from varied vocational backgrounds. They include doctors, teachers, dentists, authors, social workers, university graduates, lecturers and more. They usually prefer to work in a female environment and so would not wear the face-veil all the time.

Other women say that wearing the niqab actually makes them feel more comfortable when they are working with men. It is ironic that the very women who are the subject of debate are far from being a burden on society: they don’t get drunk and disorderly, don’t smoke and are likely to be very good citizens. Many of them are full-time mothers who take pride in raising well-educated children who will be an asset to British society.

3. The niqab isn’t in the Qur’an

The Qur’anic worldview presents a complete system of living, which permeates the daily lives of observant Muslims. This includes everything from rituals of personal hygiene, advice on neighbourly behaviour and animal rights to regulations for dress. Some women see the niqab as a religious obligation, others, as an act of worship following in the footsteps of notable Muslim women of the past. Numerous verses in the Qur’an contain directives for Muslim women’s dress, amongst them:

“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the Believers to draw their outer garments all over their bodies. That will be better, so that they may be known and so as not to be annoyed, and God is Ever-forgiving, Most Merciful.” (33:59)

The Qur’an was interpreted by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and his disciples and their teachings form the basis of Islamic law. There are two orthodox schools of thought with regards to the interpretation of this verse. One orthodox interpretation is that it means covering the whole body including the face. The other school of thought is that, though not obligatory, covering the face is a virtue.

4. Wearing the niqab implies that all men are predatory

Just as locking our doors at night doesn’t imply that all members of society are burglars, wearing the niqab doesn’t imply that all men are predatory.

The Islamic worldview recognises that attraction between men and women exists and, if left unharnessed, has the potential to break down the moral fabric of society. It also acknowledges the physiological and physical differences between men and women and therefore Islamic legislation for dress and behaviour reflect these differences and aid adherents to avoid situations that could lead to extra-marital sexual relations. Hence both men and women have been commanded to lower their gazes and given directives on dress.

5. The niqab poses a security risk at banks and airports

By simply going to the side and showing their faces and ID to female members of staff, Muslim women who wear the niqab, have been, for decades, passing through airport security in major airports all over the world without cause for security concern. The same sort of arrangement can be made for any situation where ID needs to be checked.

6.Niqab wearers can’t possibly be teachers.

There are many highly qualified and experienced Muslim teachers. A Muslim teacher, who wears the niqab, would not need to do so if men were not present, therefore many female Muslim teachers choose to teach women or children and uncover their faces whilst teaching.

7. Banning the niqab will free those Muslim women who are coerced into wearing it.

Banning the face-veil would be totally counter-productive: it would cause many Muslim women to feel targeted and persecuted and is likely to cause many talented women to withdraw from society. The majority of niqab-wearing women in Europe, wear it out of personal choice, so if, for the sake of a suspected minority, the niqab was to be banned, this would be clear discrimination against the majority.

If we want to empower women from any community who are oppressed or abused, effective public services where such abuse can be reported need to be made more available and accessible to the women involved.

The End of Ramadaan & Procrastinating

September 26, 2009 § 4 Comments

The free time I had during Ramadan I would spend reading the Qurán. I wouldn’t let moments go to waste. Not like now, where I’m procrastinating again. Satan is truly back out. If I want to be Ahl of the Qurán I know I need to get my act straight. The whispering and desire of the nafs within our ownselves is deadly and it is something the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhi wasallam feared for his Ummah.

The example of the one who follows his/her own desire in the Qurán is that of a dog:

And had We willed, We would surely have elevated him therewith but he clung to the earth and followed his own vain desire. So his parable is the parable of a dog: if you drive him away, he lolls his tongue out, or if you leave him alone, he (still) lolls his tongue out. Such is the parable of the people who reject Our Ayât (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.). So relate the stories, perhaps they may reflect (7:176)

I missed another class on Thursday and I got it from one of my teachers. Well she didn’t exactly shout or anything, we’re too old for that but she told me in clear words I needed to start being more serious. Laziness is so me. The sad part is, I know I have potential to exceed but when I don’t combine that with hard work I’m going to be lagging behind. When it comes to Islamic knowledge, you need to be steadfast and constant otherwise its difficult.

They say what you earn from the Quran is according to what you want to earn and how much effort you put into it. Some people are misguided by reading the Qurán while others better their Imaan and earn hidaya.

On the whole, it’s not about passing the course either, it’s about me as a person and how I want to better myself in terms of ilm.

I’ve been tampering with the idea of starting hifdh... the idea was a bit out of this world before, but now… not so much. I’ll have a few months free in between the time I finish this course and before my Summer semester at University starts. Lets see… Allah truly knows best.

I had the pleasure of meeting an abnormal girl who had memorised the Qurán. She has fits and shes constantly in a state of jerky movement. If she can do it, then we, with all her senses and our hands and feet and sight working normally can do it too. I was also linked to this video which really touched me.

It’s about a little girl called Bara’ah who is very very ill and in the hospital, but she is a hafidha of the Qurán. And her voice is beautiful. She calls the Shaykh on his show and in this video he gives her a lot of  dua so that she may get well soon and he gets emotional too. I’m not sure what disease it is, but I think its a serious one like cancer. May Allah subhanna wa ta’ala give her shifa. Her voice is exceptionally touching.

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